Originally posted on my old blog which will soon be removed
I've come across guys who describe a woman who is completely uninterested in them and it's pretty obvious, but then they ask, “are they playing hard to get?”. I've even come across one guy who thought this girl was playing hard to get when she even told him she wasn't interested!
For starters, most if not, all women do not play this “hard to get” game. They either like you or they don't. If a girl likes you, she's going to want to jump straight into your arms, not make it harder and potentially lose you because she wanted to play a little game with you. If a girl didn't like you, she'd drop all contact with you or just say that she doesn't like you in that way. And I think that's where guys are going wrong.
If you feel like a woman is avoiding you, then you're probably right; she is. If she doesn't return your phone calls after a week, she's either a really busy person who never uses her phone or she's ignoring you. Put yourself in their position; if you had a missed call from someone you weren't interested in, would you call them back? If she does call back within a couple days, apologising to you for not calling back sooner, then she's probably interested and was just genuinely busy.
If you turn up somewhere and you see her look at you and leave immediately, she's clearly avoiding you. Now, in some cases, some girls can be shy but if they liked you and they were shy, they wouldn't completely leave the room. Just because they're shy, it doesn't mean they dislike being in your company. She may avoid eye contact with you (due to being shy) but still steal glances at you when she thinks you're not looking. If a woman completely avoids eye contact with you and you never catch her looking in your direction, even just to look at the pretty painting behind you, she's most likely avoiding you. Obviously, if the woman you're pursuing, walks up to you with a big smile on her face the moment she sees you, with the intentions of a good chat, then that's a clear sign she likes you.
If you ask her out on a date and she refuses, excuse or not, she either does have a genuine excuse for not being free or she's just not interested. Furthermore, if you ask her out multiple times on dates but she continually has excuses or cancels last minute, that's a huge sign she doesn't want to date you. If she really liked you, she'd make time for you. She'd probably even make time to go shopping for a new outfit to impress you on the day! But, remember, even girls who like you can get busy, things do come up at the last minute and her excuses can be genuine. I'd say after three attempts to get a date with her have failed, you should take it as a sign she's not interested and move on.
You guys get the picture...
The “hard to get” game is rarely present in real life. Like I said before, if you think a woman is ignoring/avoiding you, she probably is and you should move on instead of making yourself believe that she's just playing hard to get. If she liked you, she'd be in your arms by now!